Reason, Season or Lifetime

 It seems that this past week I have had a solid writing block. Enormous actually. Almost to the point of it being fed 50 000 big macs and not exercising for years. This big fat block sat in front of me whenever I opened up my computer to write. In all honesty, you never know why you just can’t get in the mood to express yourself. Fortunately it’s gone on a bit of a diet and taken off some of that weight.

I am going to get a little serious in a moment, but first an update on BKK Shenanigans.  I am working about twice a week lately. Last week I posted my “guilty of stealing your heart picture” and worked the following day as an English football player. This week, I shot for a magazine with Kevin for Guy Laroche and Thursday I will be doing my last job in Thailand. Working right down to the wire.

My buddy was in town this past weekend and we hit up the weekend market. There is so many interesting things there for dirt cheap. While you can bargain a bit many are pretty firm on their prices. I realized I am a weird shopper. I am your typical man, I prefer shopping when I know exactly what I need. When I don’t? Well I walk around aimlessly like a beachball at a Bieber concert. I pop up once and a while, but for the most part I just bounce around. It wasn’t until I was left on my own. 1 hour left in the famous market to shop for gifts. The beast of frustration was unleashed and wham wham wham, I spent nearly 60 CAD, buying gifts for 9 people, 2 t shirts for myself and a pair of headphones. That’s what I call efficiency.

Although my reluctant shopping did come with a price, and no I am not talking dolla bills. I walked around the market for close to 5 hours. An injury that looks like the evil face of that nasty chuahaha the neighbour owns has creeped back into my life. After a hike gone wrong (I hiked down the mountain far to fast), I created myself some wonderful knee issues. These have been mostly non-existent since I arrived in Asia. Well it returned, chewing my up in agony along the way. Fortunately a few days rest has dulled the uncomfortable feelings. 

I leave BKK on Thursday for a better place. Koh Tao that is. I am embarking on an adventure to become a certified open water diver, followed by the mayhem that is full moon party. I am not a big partier, but this year I will be attending 2 of the worlds greatest parties of 2012. Best Parties of 2012. The second party you shouldn't even have to guess. 

Well the time has come. My period of modeling life in Bangkok is quickly coming to a close, goodbyes are beginning and some friendships may seize to exist, while others continue to blossom. That is really the life of modeling internationally. A past client of mine sent me an email (ugh a forwarded email I thought), but despite being chain mail it had a great message. I can’t take credit for writing this although I think the original author is unknown.

“People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. 

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. 

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season. 

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.”

Oh boy its all mushy mushy, it seems like a sisterhood of the traveling pants on crack. Those that know me know that I don’t dare go anywhere near those kind of movies. Although after falling asleep on my friends couch I was terrified to see a horse talking about sex. I fell asleep thinking of bloody knuckles and flying fists only to awake to this torture.

Back on topic, this is a good message. As much as I wish to remain close with everyone I meet, it’s inevitable that distance will dimish the relationship. I saw this upon graduation from high school, completion of university, moving to Asia, leaving Singapore, and now leaving Bangkok. Some are hurt by this realization and others remain stoic. I for one am not exactly the best at expressing my feelings (it’s a work in progress), but I am very logical in my thought patterns. I have understood that some friends are single serving, while others prevail. Frequently you can tell who will survive as a lasting friendship and you will know which ones are a season or reason.